SPORTS PARENTING IN 10 SENTENCES
Posted by Anne Josephson on JAG GYM BLOG
1 Word: Hi Greet your child when they get into the car with “Hi” before you ask about practice, the score of the game, or homework.
2 Words: Have Fun In all likelihood, you’ve heard this statistic: 70% of kids quit sports before they turn 13 for the primary reason that they are not having fun. Encourage and remind your kids to have fun.
3 Words: Tell Me More Before forming an opinion or dispensing advice, ask for more information from your child. This will force them to tell more of the story and give you more information as to what is actually happening.
4 Words: Good Job. Keep Working Doc Rivers, head coach of the Los Angeles Clippers and parent of an NBA player, suggests these four words. Rivers notes as parents, we are often tempted to say more and analyze their kids performance, but saying only this might be what’s best for the kid who simply needs support.
5 Words: What’s New In Your World? Ask you kids general questions that are not about sports. Even if their reply is “nothing”, it gives you the opportunity to share something about your day.
6 Words: I Love To Watch You Play Best six words ever.
7 Words: So What Do You Think About That? You know your opinion, so before you jump to tell your child what it is, ask what his/her opinion is. You are not only learning about what your child thinks, but are also helping to develop critical thinking skills.
8 Words: Is There Something I Can Do To Help? Before you give a solution or an action plan, ask if that is what the child really wants. Sometimes, all the child wants is to blow off some steam, and we jump directly to “solving” the problem.
9 Words: You Are More Important To Me Than Your Achievements You may be thinking “Of Course, that is true.” But remind your child of it. In the absence of hearing this from you, children might think that one of the reasons you love them is because of what they do, not who they are.
10 Words: No Matter What, I’m Glad That I AM YOUR Parent To be loved wholly and completely for exactly who we are, flaws and all, is the greatest gift one person can give another. Please give that gift to your child.